When I was a girl I had a friend who seemed to find the good in every situation. She was always happy and cheerful and I remember hearing a teacher say she viewed the world through ‘rose-colored glasses’. I did not completely understand the term, but I remember wishing I had ‘rose-colored glasses’ so that I too could see everything as beautiful and good.
That was long years ago and many people have passed in and out of my life but I have met very few whom I would say truly wore ‘rose-colored glasses’. Most of us can easily see the fallen state of our world and the sin in those around us. As we get older we usually begin to see that even those who we have grown up to respect and admire are not immune sin. All of us sin. So how do we love past the sin in others that might cause us to stumble as we struggle with frustration, disappointment, and even hurt? How do we love those closest to us – those with whom we must learn to live and love – parents, children, spouses, family, friends, and those that the Lord has placed in our life?
I think rather than ‘rose-colored glasses’ we need ‘grace-colored glasses’. We need lenses that would allow us to see past the sin that frustrates and angers with grace; lenses that would let us see past hurts and that would cover our unforgiving eyes with grace. We need grace-colored glasses that would allow others to grow at a rate that may be different than our own.
If we could remember that God has a unique plan for each of our lives and allows us the experiences, strengths, and knowledge, that would equip us for the works He has for us we would do well, but we should also remember that the plan for our life may be different than that of those we are called to love. God may choose to grow those around us differently. It is not for us to judge His choice for our parents or our children or anyone else.
It is true that perhaps there are those who have listened to false teaching, chosen wrong paths, or rejected the truths to which the Lord has led them, but we should be careful that we can see clearly when trying to pluck out splinters from the eyes of others. Of course, we are not called to enable someone we love to continue in sin and we are certainly called to be boldly truthful to those we love teaching and instructing as the opportunities are given, but above all we are called to love and I’m not sure we can really love deeply if we don’t love with grace.
Love with grace – that unmerited favor which we ourselves have been granted – is much easier said than done. I think grace can only be applied with much prayer, and so it is my earnest prayer that the Lord would give me grace-colored glasses with which to view those I love.